Being ghosted, misunderstood and judged is how an autistic man has experienced dating apps.

Andrew Edwards, 39, said there needs to be more support for autistic adults who are looking for romance.

He has given up on online dating after six years of trying, describing them as “demoralising”.

Being autistic does not mean you have an illness or disease. It means your brain works in a different way from other people.

“The constant ghosting is quite confusing for someone with autism,” Andrew said.

“Due to this my moods could fluctuate quite wildly depending on replies and my stress levels were affected quite greatly.”

Andrew, from Wrexham, used both conventional and autism-specific sites, and while he says he has learned from his experience and feels “less naive” now, his experience was not good.

“If people behave like that on the street to someone, it wouldn’t be acceptable,” he said.

Andrew added that scrolling on the apps also played on his “obsessional nature”, as well.

Andrew requires 24-hour care form his sister Mel after his mother died after developing pneumonia following Covid-19.

“I am articulate and knowledgeable but I require 24 hour care off my sister… a lot of people just don’t get this,” he said. Andrew has a busy life. He has a close family, plays cricket and trains at the gym several times a week, as well as working part time for an autism charity. But the lack of a romantic partner weighs heavily.

Andrew says there must be other neurodiverse people who feel the same as him, and says local friendship or dating groups for people on the autism spectrum could help.

He has tried to set up a group himself, but faced difficulties and found it too stressful to organise.

“There’s a lack of support and funding for those with autism who are adults… our services are geared towards youngsters,” he said.

“I would love to attend a group that could lead to possible romantic relationships.

“People don’t judge as much (in person) as they do behind their phone screen.”

Andrew’s friend, former community nurse Mai Rees Moulton, has known him since he was a teenager, when she taught relationship and sex education at his school.

She says she would love Andrew to find a girlfriend, but also believes that meeting someone face to face would suit him better.

“Obviously he has got a really full life, but it would be so nice for him to meet someone special because he’s got so much to give, and he would make somebody a lovely partner.

“It would have to be someone very special for them to be right for each other.”