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Has anyone asked Katie Thorpe?

October 10, 2007

Since Monday, countless disability rights campaigners, and a few loving mothers, have been discussing Katie Thorpe’s mother’s decision to ask for her daughter to have a hysterectomy because she has severe CP.

Mrs Thorpe says that she is trying to save her daughter what she calls ‘unnecssary’ pain and discomfort. This, I have to say, is a good point. Pain can be harmful when you have CP as well as just being uncomfortable. But every teenage girl goes through this pain. It is necessary. It is part of life as a girl- even if we hate it, we wouldn’t change it for anything!

I’ve had moments when I’ve agreed with Mrs Thorpe’s thinking- usually when I’ve been in that pain myself! But the rest of the time, I’m glad my mum didn’t do what she is trying to. If I’d never had a period, I wouldn’t be able to take part in conversations with able-bodied females about pain, embarrassment, or anything like that. I’d have to spend thirty years of my life saying “What’s that?” every time anything was mentioned on the subject. That would be more embarrassing and uncomfortable than all the embarrassing, uncomfortable and annoying situations I’ve ever been in with my period!

My question- that the news hasn’t answered yet- is- has anyone asked Katie? If this is her decision, then she has every right to make it. But if her mother has made the decision without asking for Katie’s opinion, then, before anything else, won’t Katie be even more confused when her period suddenly disappears?

 Mrs Thorpe thinks she’s helping Katie, but as a girl who can see both sides and is speaking from experience, I say that unless Katie, and all others like us, make this decision for themselves, it’s not a help- it’s exactly the opposite.

I will be following this story closely and blogging about any updates I find.

Update: 15.10- I found this interview with Mrs Thorpe today: http://www.guardian.co.uk/medicine/story/0,,2190232,00.html

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7 Comments leave one →
  1. xaedere permalink
    January 19, 2016 3:03 am

    Um. Okay, this isn’t strictly relevant directly to Katie, but it does reply to something you said in this post, so:

    Please don’t speak for all of us when you talk on this subject. I would gladly give up my menorrhagia and dysmenorrhoea whether it made conversations with able-bodied women awkward or not. I’ve never wanted kids, and my periods are bad enough that the adaptations service gave me a commode to save me crawling to the bathroom on days I couldn’t even sit up because of the resultant pain. Not everyone is happy or willing to endure periods just for the sake of some arbitrary degree of “femininity” – which, by the way, is rather unfair to trans women too, since they never have periods either. I hope 8 years later your views have developed on that part of this subject.

    • January 19, 2016 8:51 am

      xaedere- you make good points. I had not thought about trans women at all 8 years ago. As for speaking for all of us, that was never my intention. I was speaking for myself. Anyone is free to disagree with anything I say in the comments, as you have done.

      • xaedere permalink
        January 9, 2019 10:12 pm

        Fair enough, but you did say “we”. Which, is not so even for many cisgender women I know. One of my close relatives had to have her periods stopped entirely or else she’d have ended up bleeding to death – quite literally. You may see it as a sort of feminine gateway to maturity, but millions of women – cis or trans – or other people who menstruate or might be expected to do so – do not, and many hate that it’s made such a big deal because it ends up being glorified and their problems blanked by others.

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