Robert Halfon MP Admits And Apologises For Six Month Affair With Activist
Late last night, I read reports that disabled MP Robert Halfon admitted last week to a six month affair. Mr Halfon reportedly cheated on his long term partner with high profile Tory activist Alexandra Paterson, 30.
Reportedly, Mr Halfon claimed between 25-30,000 pounds in expenses to stay at London’s East India Club between 2010 and 2014. The claims were legitimate- Mr Halfon, unlike other MPs, is allowed to claim for overnight stays close to Westminster because of his disability, Cerebral Palsy.
However, he reportedly met Ms Paterson at the club, though the Independent reports that his spokeswoman told the Sunday Times that Ms Paterson did not stay at the club overnight.
The point of this article is not to criticise Mr Halfon for claiming legitimate expenses. Nor is the point of this article to criticise Mr Halfon for having an affair- his private life is his private business and no one has a right to comment on that.
The point of this article, readers, is to say something that you may consider controversial.
I have shared Mr Halfon’s disability since my birth 30 years ago. Growing up in the 1990s, the idea of disabled people having any sort of sexual relationship was unheard of. Mr Halfon is 46. I think it’s safe to say that the idea was even more unheard of when he was a teenager.
Luckily, it is not nearly as unheard of now. However, I think many non-disabled people still prefer not to think about the idea of disabled people having sex.
So, readers, the point of this article is to thank Mr Halfon for speaking out about his affair, for which he has fully apologised.
The point of this article is to thank the several mainstream newspapers which covered the story yesterday for covering the story without being afraid to include Mr Halfon’s disability in their coverage.
Disabled people know that disabled people have sex, too. Yes, even in affairs. Disabled people will not be surprised about that part of the story.
And everyone knows that MPs having affairs is nothing new or surprising. However, non disabled people may have thought that, because of his disability, Mr Halfon would be one of the last MPs to be caught up in a sex scandal. I hope that when they read about his affair, they will see that Mr Halfon is just like any other man.
By revealing his affair, Mr Halfon has, however unintentionally, used his high profile to do something positive for the disability community.
Call me controversial. Call me crazy. Call me what you like. But for that, I thank him.