What a terrible title for a dating show for disabled people, readers. As I have said and seen many times before, DisAbled people are certainly not undateable. It is these sorts of outdated views that give DisAbled children and teenagers the very wrong idea that they will never fall in love because no one will want them. It is these sorts of outdated views that give the parents of disabled children similar very wrong ideas that their child will never fall in love because no one will want them.
As I have grown from a DisAbled child into a DisAbled adult, I have discovered that my romantic feelings are just as strong as anyone else’s, thank you very much, if not stronger, because when I fall in love, it will be with a person- not his looks or his physical abilities. I have stopped seeing myself as ‘undateable’ and realised that the person who can see past my DisAbilities is out there somewhere- I just have to find him!
Anyway, back to the real reason for this post. It’s a show starting on April 3rd at 9PM, on Channel 4. The Channel 4 Press website says:
The Undateables is a programme about people looking for love – but with a difference.
The series follows a range of people whose ability to form relationships is affected by an impairment or challenging condition – such as being deaf, having Tourette’s or Asperger’s. The programme charts their quest to find love in an image-obsessed world where people are too quick to make snap judgements or assumptions based on first impressions – and even consider such people to be ‘undateable’.
With the help of one of the biggest personal introductions agencies in the UK, and using pro-active searching methods to find perfect matches, the series looks to help find love for those who have until now found it difficult to date. Looking for matches within both the non-disabled and disabled communities, the series sets out to revolutionise the dating scene and turn society’s prejudice on its head.
The Undateables is an uplifting and moving series exploring how society’s attitude towards anyone who digresses from what is considered to be the norm can have a profound impact on those people’s lives.
I understand that they are trying to turn the ‘undateable’ stereotype on it’s head, but in that case why not use a title like ‘Dateless and Disabled?’ This might have given the impression that disabled people are looking for dates- rather than the impression that no one wants to date us!
And as for this billboard advert- well, I see where it’s coming from but am I the only one who finds it offensive?
(Image thanks to Liberal Conspiracy)