Lenny Rush ‘Still In Shock’ After TV Bafta Win
Actor Lenny Rush said he was still in shock after winning a TV Bafta at the age of 14.
The boy from Burnham-on-Crouch in Essex won the award for Best Male Comedy Performance at Sunday’s ceremony for his role in the BBC show Am I Being Unreasonable?, starring Daisy May Cooper.
He has spondyloepiphyseal dysplasia congenita (SEDC) – a rare condition that results in short stature and skeletal anomalies – and used a mobility scooter to attend the awards.
He said: “It was crazy. I’m still in shock, to be honest. I still can’t believe it.”
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Following the release last month of figures revealing how many claimants initially refused any PIP get enhanced awards as a result of lapsed appeals, should claimants be much more aware of them as the second stage in a three part challenge process?
Last month, Labour MP Marsha De Cordova asked DWP minister Tom Pursglove for statistics on lapsed appeals.
Lapsed appeal is the term the DWP use for when they make an award, or a better award, to a claimant who has lost their mandatory reconsideration and lodged an appeal. This causes the appeal to lapse because there has now been a new decision, although you can choose to appeal against this decision too.
The statistics reveal that over the four years up to April 2022, 10.5% of claimants who were not awarded any PIP and who lodged an appeal got an award due to a lapsed appeal. This is a total of 30,200 claimants.
Astonishingly, 51% of these claimants got at least one enhanced component.
It’s a big leap to go from no award at all to at least one enhanced component. To make an offer that high before an appeal suggests that no-one was looking very closely at the claim or the mandatory reconsideration stage.
And that the challenge process should really be thought of as:
Mandatory reconsideration
Pre-appeal reconsideration
Appeal
The very sad part of this is the number of claimants who drop out after a failed mandatory reconsideration, not realizing there is a real chance of a good award without having to actually go to an appeal hearing – even if you have been given no award at all so far.
According to the DWP’s quarterly statistics, between April 2013 and September 2021, only 38% of completed mandatory reconsiderations went on to appeal.
Yet over one in seven of those claimants then had their appeals lapsed because they were made a better offer by the DWP without going to a tribunal hearing.
And, as we now know, many of those were offers of enhanced awards for at least one component.
Indeed in the current newsletter, Benefits and Work has published feedback from a member who got enhanced rates for both components at a lapsed appeal, having previously been awarded nothing.
“I applied for PIP in May last year using your PIP guidance. I had a telephone assessment where I felt the assessor was trying to lead to answers he wanted. I got refused PIP with 4 points overall so asked for mandatory reconsideration. Again refused so applied for a Tribunal . . . Last week I got a call saying DWP did not want to go to Tribunal and has changed their decision. I received PIP backdated and enhanced rate in both categories. Being finally believed was so emotional for me. Without Benefits and Works I would not have known how to present my issues, or keep fighting when I was struggling so much with physical and mental disabilities.”
So, we would suggest that even if you don’t feel you can face an appeal, you seriously consider lodging one to see if the DWP make you an offer before the hearing.
We’ll be updating our PIP appeals guide in the next two weeks to include more on lapsed appeals.
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Patients are being offered powerful drugs and told they have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) after unreliable online assessments, a BBC investigation has discovered.
Three private clinics diagnosed an undercover reporter via video calls.
But a more detailed, in-person NHS assessment showed he didn’t have the condition.
The clinics say they conduct thorough assessments and follow national guidelines.
Panorama spoke to dozens of patients and whistleblowers after receiving tip-offs about rushed and poor-quality assessments at some private clinics, including Harley Psychiatrists, ADHD Direct and ADHD 360.
All three diagnosed undercover reporter Rory Carson with the neurodevelopmental disorder – a recognised medical condition which affects behaviour and can be considered a disability under the Equality Act 2010.
The investigation found that:
- Clinics carried out only limited mental health assessments of patients
- Powerful drugs were prescribed for long-term use, without advice on possible serious side effects or proper consideration of patients’ medical history
- Patients posting negative reviews were threatened with legal action
- The NHS is paying for thousands of patients to go to private clinics for assessments
Commenting on Panorama’s findings, Dr Mike Smith – an NHS consultant psychiatrist – said he was seriously concerned about the number of people who might “potentially have received an incorrect diagnosis and been started on medications inappropriately”.
“The scale is massive.”
There has been a big increase in the number of adults seeking ADHD diagnoses in recent years – because of the success of treatments and more awareness of the condition. Support groups say it has long been under-diagnosed.
Discussion about ADHD is widespread on social media, with #ADHD attracting more than 20 billion hits on TikTok alone.
In some areas, it can take more than five years to secure an NHS assessment – so many patients are instead prepared to pay hundreds of pounds to be seen at private clinics. The NHS is also picking up the bill for thousands of these private assessments, as part of the government’s drive to bring down waiting lists.
Having ADHD can be considered a disability – it depends whether or not someone’s condition has a “substantial” and “long-term” negative effect on their ability to carry out normal day-to-day activities.
Panorama’s undercover reporter answered questions about his symptoms truthfully throughout each of the assessments. Although, he didn’t tell the private clinics the real reason he’d booked the appointment.
His first assessment was at a face-to-face meeting with Dr Smith – who leads a specialist adult ADHD service in the NHS.
Carson and his family filled out questionnaires about his habits and childhood history ahead of an appointment that lasted more than three hours. It involved a full psychiatric assessment. His assessment followed the guidelines issued by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE).
Some of the symptoms of ADHD can include things many people experience, such as fidgeting, getting distracted and acting impulsively. But NICE guidelines say someone should only receive a diagnosis of ADHD if those symptoms severely impact their life.
Dr Smith concluded that Carson does not have ADHD.
There are 18 recognised symptoms that can indicate someone has ADHD and Carson was found not to meet the clinical threshold for a single one of them.
But when the journalist went undercover at Harley Psychiatrists, he was scored 15 out of 18 – after a 45-minute video call with a psychologist.
He paid £685 for his assessment and was told by the psychologist: “There’s no expiration date for this. You’re diagnosed for life.”
More and more people are turning to private clinics for an assessment to determine whether they have ADHD. Panorama investigates whether some are giving unreliable diagnoses
There was a follow-up appointment with a psychiatrist a week later, lasting less than 10 minutes, at which Carson was prescribed a stimulant called methylphenidate.
This is a standard treatment for ADHD. The medication interacts with chemicals in the brain and can help someone with the condition concentrate better, be less impulsive and feel calmer.
The drug is considered safe and effective for most people who have the condition, but can have serious side effects for some patients, such as those with heart problems or certain mental health issues.
Being exposed to this medication if you don’t have ADHD can be a dangerous health risk, according to Dr Smith, and it can also exacerbate existing mental health conditions. Stimulants used to treat ADHD are Class B drugs – controlled substances under the Misuse of Drugs Act.
Harley’s psychiatrists didn’t ask the BBC reporter any detailed questions about his mental health before prescribing the drugs and he wasn’t warned about the potential for serious side effects.
Lawyers for Harley Psychiatrists told Panorama clinicians also take account of information in pre-assessment forms: “The suggestion there is a high risk our client is misdiagnosing adults with ADHD is untrue and unsubstantiated – as is the suggestion that adequate checks are not conducted.”
They said, “diagnosis of ADHD… depends on the answers given by the patient”, and there have been “numerous patients who have not been diagnosed with ADHD”.
The lawyers said the clinic accepted that Carson “should not have been able to obtain a prescription” and has updated its processes.
Lawyers for the Harley psychologist who assessed Carson told us that while her testing produced results “indicative of a patient having ADHD”, such a “diagnosis is formally made by a psychiatrist”.
Lawyers for the psychiatrist – who prescribed the drugs – said their client stood by his diagnosis. He would “normally take between 30 and 45 minutes” to complete consultations, they said, but in this case he “did not consider it necessary” because of the psychologist’s report.
Carson also had an assessment with ADHD Direct, based in Glasgow.
He was assessed by a nurse who was new to the clinic and being supervised by another nurse. NICE guidelines say assessments must be conducted by a psychiatrist or a suitably qualified clinician.
The assessment lasted an hour and 40 minutes, and cost £1,095. The nurses asked more thorough questions than Harley Psychiatrists about Carson’s medical history – and he and his family were asked to fill out a questionnaire beforehand. But Carson says the assessment still felt “like a tick-box exercise”.
Once again he was diagnosed with ADHD at a follow-up appointment and offered a prescription for stimulants.
The journalist revealed to the clinic that he was an undercover reporter before going any further.
Lawyers for ADHD Direct said there would have been more checks before Mr Carson got the drugs. They say his assessment included a “full developmental and psychiatric history” and the clinic “stands by its diagnosis”.
“ADHD is under-identified, under-diagnosed and under-treated,” the lawyers added – stating that the clinic has “no incentive… to over diagnose” and that an audit had found that “10% of the patients seen did not have ADHD”.
The undercover reporter also booked an online appointment with ADHD 360, a clinic based in Lincolnshire, which assesses thousands of NHS-funded patients.
Patients and former staff had told the BBC that appointments were short and almost everyone who went there got diagnosed with ADHD.
One clinician said that while working for ADHD 360 he would see a patient “on the hour, every hour” and that he didn’t think this was safe. ADHD 360 says clinicians are only expected to do two assessments a day.
Carson was assessed by a pharmacist. He didn’t take a full psychiatric history but diagnosed the reporter with ADHD after an hour and 15 minutes. He also prescribed stimulant medication, without proper checks.
ADHD 360 says it is regulated as an NHS provider and delivers “high standard assessment, diagnosis, treatment and care” for thousands of patients. Its “qualified clinicians” are trained in its own academy and its “assessments meet all accepted best practices”.
It says on this occasion its “prescription policy was regrettably not followed” and “procedures have now been reviewed” and enhanced.
People who spoke to Panorama also expressed their concerns about the quality of care being offered by private clinics to vulnerable patients who turn to their services in desperation because NHS waiting lists are so long.
Casey faced a three-year wait for an ADHD assessment with the NHS and borrowed almost £700 to be seen by Harley Psychiatrists instead.
She says she was diagnosed with ADHD – by the same psychologist as the BBC reporter – after a video call lasting about 40 minutes.
Casey posted a number of negative reviews online, and the clinic sent her a letter – seen by Panorama – which said she had written “potentially unlawful” reviews and that the matter had been passed to the company’s legal department.
The BBC is aware of a number of other apparent legal threats made to patients, after they left negative reviews about Harley Psychiatrists.
Lawyers for the clinic said it was entitled to request the removal of false and defamatory reviews.
There is no doubt that many people who go to private clinics will have ADHD, but experts say patients might not get the right treatment if the assessment was unreliable.
“These people were supposed to help me and they took advantage of me,” Casey told the BBC.
“I wasn’t someone who was struggling with their mental health and needed help, I was just money to them.”
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A pianist who is registered blind says he learned to play the instrument at the age of five by listening and feeling the music.
Matthew Richards from Wolverhampton has had sight difficulties since birth and at the age of 13, lost sight in his right eye and has only limited vision in his left.
The professional piano tuner, who has perfect pitch, recently impressed judges on the Channel 4 programme The Piano and has now brought out an album of his playing.
“Anything is possible, don’t let anything stand in your way,” Mr Richards said.
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A blind presenter has launched a new podcast which will include audio descriptions of iconic moments from the Eurovision Song Contest.
Lucy Edwards, from Birmingham, lost her vision 10 years ago when she was 17.
Since then, she said she has “missed out” on cultural moments and wanted to describe elements from the competition for other blind and visually impaired fans.
She hosts Eurovision Described on BBC Sounds with Abi Clarke.
“Ultimately, when you’re blind or visually impaired, there’s a lot of things online that aren’t accessible to you at all,” said Ms Edwards.
“We thought it was really important to bring this podcast to everyone who hasn’t seen those moments, has never had those cultural moments described to them.”
Ms Edwards, who has more than half a million followers online, is a self-described Eurovision super fan but admitted she has not watched any of this year’s competition, hosted in Liverpool, so far.
“The semi final, my dad always has it on, I’m always like ‘don’t show me’ because I’m so invested in the final, I don’t want the acts to be spoilers,” she said.
As part of the podcast, she and Ms Clarke have interviewed the likes of Lordi, Bucks Fizz and Scooch and her co-host has described their performances to her.
“I had vision 10 years back when I saw some of these performances but I’d forgotten,” Ms Edwards said.
“A lot of my visual memory has faded over the years, so having them described by Abi my co-presenter was amazing, just putting a lot of colour into the performances.”
She said it was “amazing” to see more televised events, like the Coronation, being audio described to be more inclusive.
“It brings me to tears when live shows are audio described because I haven’t had that being blind for the last 10 years,” she said.
“There have been times when I have been shut out from major moments.”
For the final on Friday, Ms Edwards is planning to enjoy the show with her family, adding her dad normally describes the action for her.
All episodes of Eurovision Described, hosted by Lucy Edwards and Abi Clarke, are available to stream on BBC Sounds.
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Work coaches, who will decide whether claimants are fit for work-related activities under DWP plans, need not have even a single GCSE it has been revealed. In addition, job interviews are conducted without the DWP ever meeting the candidate and the questions asked, as well as suggested answers, are available online for under a tenner.
Disability News Service revealed last week that that the DWP had admitted that there are no minimum academic qualifications required to become a work coach in a jobcentre.
Yet under DWP plans, the work capability assessment (WCA) is to be abolished and it will be unqualified work coaches who will decide whether a universal credit claimant must undertake work-related activities.
This is a decision which is currently made by registered health professionals and the fact that it is to be handed over to work coaches with no medical knowledge whatsoever is causing alarm amongst claimants and many voluntary sector organisations.
Benefits and Work can reveal that not only do work coaches not need qualifications, but that the DWP never meet them before offering them a job and that there are websites that claim to offer a full list of questions and suggested answers for passing the online work coach interviews.
In 2020, the government announced it was going to double the number of work coaches in jobcentres by hiring an extra 13,500 people.
It wanted the first 4,500 new recruits in place within just three months of the announcement
Civils Service World explained how the DWP tackled this mass hiring challenge by using an outside company to create an entirely online, prerecorded recruitment process.
The high-speed, remote interview system that was devised at that stage is still in use today to recruit work coaches, with details of the process available on the DWP workcoach microsite.
After completing an application form, candidates are asked to undertake an online situational judgement test in which they have 40 minutes to consider 20 hypothetical scenarios. For each scenario there is a list of possible responses which candidates have to rank on a five-point scale from ‘extremely desirable’ to ‘extremely undesirable’.
Applicants who pass this test are then invited to take part in an online “interview”. A pre-recorded interviewer asks six questions, two each on: communicating and influencing; managing a quality service; and making effective decisions.
After each question, the candidate gets a minute’s thinking time and then automatic video recording begins and the candidate has three minutes to give their answer.
The video recording is then evaluated by DWP staff and successful candidates are offered a job at a local jobcentre.
A small industry has grown up to help people complete the application process successfully.
One website offers a “DWP Work Coach Mock Interview” with 30 interview questions and answer examples. A subscription to the site costs £6 for a week with anytime cancellation.
Other sites have forums where people who have been through the interview process share their experiences and lists of questions they were asked, such as:
“How do you explain something complex taking into account the end-users’ needs.”
“Tell me about a time you had to manage a complex issue to bring about great service.”
A forum poster on one site explained that some jobcentres even run groups where you can discuss the application process and talk to other people who are going through it.
All of this may be fine for people whose aim is to get a job where they can support other people into employment.
Buts as DNS pointed out, decisions about whether a disabled person must carry out work-related activity are “life-changing – and potentially life-ending – decisions”.
To have a recruitment and selection process where candidates don’t need any qualifications whatsoever and where you appoint people before you meet them seems ill-conceived and dangerous.
Under the DWP plans, entirely unqualified work coaches will decide whether someone with a complex mental health condition or a serious physical health issue is able to undertake work-related activities. They will then then decide precisely what those activities should be, without the claimant having any right of appeal. And they will then have the power to recommend that the claimant is sanctioned and suffers a catastrophic loss of income if they are unable to carry out those activities.
Abolishing the WCA and replacing it with the decisions of unqualified work coaches selected according to their ability to answer multiple choice questions and perform in front of a web cam is not progress, it’s irresponsible and potentially deadly cost-cutting.
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An autistic girl aged 16 spent nearly seven months in a busy general hospital due to a lack of suitable children’s mental health services in England.
Her local health and care system said it was “very sorry” for how she was treated “when she was most vulnerable”.
Campaigners describe the shortage of appropriate support for people with autism as a human rights crisis.
Directors of council care services are calling for an urgent government review of children’s mental health services.
The teenager, called Molly, spent about 200 days living in a side-room of a children’s ward at the Queen Alexandra Hospital in Portsmouth. It is not a mental health unit.
Experts say a general hospital was not the right place for her, but she had nowhere else to go because of a lack of help in the community.
Warning: Molly’s story contains details that some people may find upsetting
Agency mental health nurses were brought in because she needed constant, three-to-one observations to keep her safe. Her family says security guards were also often stationed outside her room.
Molly’s autism is at the root of the deep anxiety and eating problems that she struggles with.
Like many autistic people, she finds dealing with noise difficult. The clamour of the hospital overloaded her senses and her behaviour sometimes became challenging. She was restrained numerous times.
In the final 10 days she was at the hospital, her family says the children’s ward was closed to other patients because she became so distressed.
A spokesperson for Hampshire and Isle of Wight Integrated Care System (ICS) said it was sorry Molly “did not receive care in an environment better suited to her needs”, adding: “Molly’s safety has always been our priority.”
The National Autistic Society says it is hearing from hundreds of autistic people who cannot get the support they need.
A spokesperson for the Department of Health and Social Care says it recognises “the importance of getting people the right care in the right place”.
This may be one person’s experience, but it tells us so much about how the health and care system is failing too many young people who are struggling.

Molly is a bright, engaging teenager, who loves animals and finds the outdoors calming. She was diagnosed as autistic when she was 10 years old. She is also partially sighted.
For nearly a year, I’ve been speaking to Molly and her parents. Through the many emails, phone calls, video meetings and visits I’ve followed the frustrating fight they’ve faced to try to get Molly the right support.
When I first sat talking to Molly in the kitchen of her family home last August, she had already spent 90 days on the children’s ward of the general hospital because there was no support available elsewhere.
She had initially been taken there because her weight had fallen dangerously low, but described the loud, bright, busy hospital environment as like “living in hell”.
“It feels like they’re torturing you,” she said. “It’s almost like the hospital room is like a small box, and you’re not allowed to leave it. There are phones going off, alarms, children screaming.”
The three-person restraint team that moved in when she became distressed or if she was refusing to eat “just made things 100 times worse”, she remembered.
In the past four years, Molly has also spent time on four child and adolescent mental health units. Two of the units have since closed after highly critical inspection reports. Her family believes none of the places provided Molly with the therapy or autism support she needed.
Her father Richard said: “There is no long-term strategy. No planning really, other than reacting to crises.”
The Hampshire and Isle of Wight ICS spokesperson said there had been “a significant and rapid rise” in the number of children and young people with complex mental health conditions requiring care and support since the Covid pandemic.
It says across England, the proportion of children aged five to 16 years identified as having a probable mental disorder increased from 10.8% in 2017 to 16% in 2020. In south-east England the proportion is even higher at 17.4%.
When I asked Molly why she wanted to speak to us, she was very clear. She didn’t want others to be treated as she had been treated.
“The system really needs to change,” she said.
Once Molly was back at home after being discharged from the last unit, they hoped she would get intensive support in the community to help with her disordered eating and anxiety.
Her family says this proved patchy, with many changes of staff.
Last October, Molly reached another crisis. Her weight dropped again and she was taken back to the Queen Alexandra Hospital. Her parents asked us to delay telling her story, hoping she would be home soon. Nearly seven months later she was still there.
Her family says she was traumatised by the hospital environment, being frequently restrained and largely isolated from other young people.
“It’s a vicious cycle,” Richard said. “The more distressed she gets, the more her behaviour becomes challenging and then the more intense support they’ve got around her, which is more oppressive and more sensory-overloading.”
Despite the close supervision, she has also harmed herself seriously on several occasions.
“I think we know something is wrong before we even pick up, if the phone rings at night,” said her mother, Mandy.
They are both exhausted and when I asked how they were coping, Mandy said: “You have to cope, there is no other way.”
In March, Molly’s parents told me that the teams involved in her care seemed to agree she was stuck.
Richard said past experience had shown that “off-the-shelf solutions”, including stays in mental health units, were “very negative for her and completely don’t meet her autistic needs”.
An ICS spokesperson said: “Everyone involved has done all they can to ensure she receives safe and compassionate care and sought to move Molly to a setting that better meets her needs as quickly as possible. Teams continue to do their very best to help ensure Molly gets the care she needs.”
The National Autistic Society says it hears from hundreds of people trapped in a similar cycle.
It wants the government and NHS to put more money into mental health services that support people at home and to intervene early when there are problems.
The charity’s head of research, Tim Nicholls, says that unless this is done the pattern will repeat itself and “one of the great human rights crises of our generation” will continue.
It is hard to calculate how much Molly’s latest stay in the general hospital will have cost, but according to the Nuffield Trust health think-tank, a paediatric NHS hospital bed costs nearly £500 a day. If a child has an eating disorder that rises to about £1,400 a day.
The NHS hasn’t commented on the financial impact of the nearly 200 days Molly has spent at the hospital, but with the costs of employing agency mental health staff included, it could easily have reached a quarter of a million pounds.
While the NHS runs most mental health services for children, councils also provide community-based support.
In a recent survey, 79% of directors who run council children’s services in England said there was “rarely” or “never” appropriate beds available for children with complex needs.
Steve Crocker from the Association of Directors of Children’s Services in England said they had seen “a real increase in the number of children stuck on hospital wards with mental health issues”.
Until recently he ran children’s social care in Hampshire, where Molly lives. While he can’t comment on individual cases, he says generally the need for change is urgent and “we also need to push government for a full review around children’s mental health services”.
The government says its ambition is to halve the number of autistic people and those with a learning disability in mental health hospitals by March 2024. A Department of Health and Social Care spokesperson added that this is backed by extra funding and “our action plan to improve community support and reduce over-reliance on mental health hospitals”.
In April, Molly’s family says she became so distressed the children’s ward was closed to other patients. Ten days later she was moved to a mental health unit – even though that has not worked for her in the past. It is meant to be a short-term solution but her family say no other options are currently being discussed.
I last spoke to Molly a couple of days ago. She had had a few trips out with her parents and was desperate to get on with life.
And if she can get the right support, her hopes of staying out of hospital and going to college should be possible.
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While Melanie was in social isolation in her Australian home due to Covid-19, she made a promise to herself. Once she was allowed out again she was going to hire a sex worker, lose her virginity and put a halt to those anxieties she had developed around love and intimacy as a disabled person. Chayse was the man she booked.
It was Melanie’s support worker who first suggested it. While they were isolating together, Tracey gave Melanie a massage.
No one had touched Melanie before in a non-medical way and, at 43 years old, she realised she wanted more.
Tracey, not her real name, revealed to Melanie she had once been a sex worker and thought that personal services could be an option for her to explore.
“It just opened my eyes to the fact that maybe I could experience this,” Melanie told BBC Access All.
She found an escort agency online, where a profile for a man called Chayse caught her eye.
Excited, she arranged a booking and travelled to his apartment for the first session.
“When I got out of my powerchair and my support worker left, it was just the two of us. I had no idea what I was in for.”

Melanie has used a wheelchair since the age of three having been diagnosed with inflammation of the spinal cord – a condition known as transverse myelitis. It has given her paralysis in her legs and limited movement in her arms. As an adult, she uses support workers to help with daily tasks.
She has lived and worked in Japan and is now a video editor, but romance never seemed to be on the cards. “I just thought if it happens, it happens.”
Dating and opening yourself up to others can feel intimidating and the world doesn’t always acknowledge disabled people as sexual beings.
According to the UK Disability Survey, published by the government in 2021, just 56% of the general population said they would feel comfortable in an intimate relationship with a disabled person.
Melanie, herself, had never been sure how to approach it, so had left it to chance.
After emailing an inquiry to Chayse, he arranged several videocalls so they could get to know each other and discuss any potential challenges.
“I asked a million questions,” Melanie says: “Have you ever used a hoist before? Is your apartment wheelchair accessible? How often does the lift in your place break down?”
“About once every six months,” Chayse replied.
For Melanie, Chayse’s answers were good enough to book a session at his apartment. And far from nervous, she brought the appointment forward, too excited to wait as he had been so warm and reassuring.
Legally, the arrangement between Melanie and Chayse was above board.
In Western Australia, under the Prostitution Act 2000, while it is illegal to carry out street-based sex work or run a brothel, the act of prostitution is not against the law and escort agencies are legal. This differs across Australia’s states with Victoria, New South Wales and the Northern Territory having decriminalised sex work.
It is similar in the UK. While the exchange of sexual services for money is legal in the UK, apart from in Northern Ireland, related activities such as soliciting or running a brothel are not.
When Melanie arrived at Chayse’s property, the enormity of the situation began to sink in.
“I knew I was out of my depth with sexual knowledge and I felt completely overwhelmed with the expert that was standing in front of me.”
But as the appointment tentatively got under way, Melanie had a revelation.
“I am an expert with disability and Chayse had no idea. We ended up laughing at each other’s ignorance and naivety. Two hours later we were the best of buddies.”
Chayse, who has worked in the industry for six years, says “sexpectations” are the biggest problem when it comes to new clients – people put too much pressure on guaranteeing “the big O”.

LISTEN: You can hear more from Melanie and Chayse on the BBC Access All podcast with Nikki Fox and Emma Tracey.

“You’ve got to figure out what is going to work,” just like any intimate relationship, he says.
Before hiring Chayse, Melanie had no idea how her body might respond in an intimate setting, whether she would be able to get into a conducive position or whether fatigue would obliterate any enjoyment.
“That was the whole reason I booked Chayse,” she says. “I didn’t want to go home with a guy from a bar and find out these things and be awkward, vulnerable and unsafe.”
As it happens, she found she could achieve plenty of enjoyment with Chayse and didn’t have to limit herself.
Another thing she discovered was that her legs can be unpredictable and “fling off the bed” and she often needs a physio session afterwards to refresh her limbs.
“I’ve worked out that my legs need to be fastened to the bed beforehand and then there’s no worry,” she says.
This raises questions about power and control.
As a disabled woman in an unfamiliar house, Melanie is more vulnerable than most.
“It was the first time I’d been naked in front of a man, outside of a hospital,” she says.
Chayse, who has previously worked with those who have experienced trauma, says “creating a safe welcoming space where she’s in control,” is his top priority.
But it’s not just the physical power imbalance where the vulnerability lies. Disability can sometimes infantilise people and make them feel unworthy of certain experiences that other people think of as just normal – some disabled people call this internalised ableism.
These recent intimate encounters have gone on to give Melanie greater power in every aspect of her life.
“I knew that by booking Chayse, and paying for a service, that I was in control. I knew that if Chayse treated me differently or did something I didn’t like he would stop.”
She said if that did happen she knew she wouldn’t have booked with him again.
But it does come at a financial cost.
“It’s in the thousands,” Chayse says wryly of his 48-hour price. His hourly rate is about 400 Australian dollars (£211).
Justifying the cost, he says: “What a lot of people don’t understand is when you’re seeing someone for 48 hours, as rewarding as it can be, you’re not doing anything else you want to do in your life.”
But he adds that he does get a huge amount of satisfaction from his work.
“Who doesn’t want to help people explore different things? Why can’t I be there for other people that need that and want and deserve to feel beautiful?”
“It’s hard not to fall in love with Chayse,” Melanie admits. “But I have to remind myself that it is a professional relationship.”
Melanie and Chayse have been seeing each other since January, but it’s not just about a quick fix and sex.
As well as providing his skills as a sex worker, Chayse has also been talking with a dating coach to see how he can support Melanie navigate the “tango of dating” and help her build future romantic partnerships with other people.
“I’m looking for a Chayse replacement. Somebody who loves me and loves what I like and does everything for free,” she says.
“I never thought I would go on dating apps and talk to men online and now I’m doing it pretty much daily. My only regret is not doing it sooner.”
For Melanie, the experience is more than just sexual liberation and she has got so much out of this ongoing experience she believes governments should pay and support disabled people in accessing sexual services.
“My confidence has grown heaps, I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you can’t put a price on that life-changing experience.”
And she has been excited to share her new experiences with friends and family.
“I was a bit embarrassed to say anything at first, but it made such a huge difference in my life. I just couldn’t stop telling people and they’re really happy for me. I can’t wipe the smile off my face.”
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A school for deaf children has used British Sign Language to perform the national anthem for the Coronation.
Pupils from Royal School for the Deaf Derby’s choir used British Sign Language for the performance, while Derby Cathedral’s choir sang in accompaniment.
The school said it wanted to do something special for the Coronation.
The performance was recorded and has been shared on the school’s social media sites.
Head teacher Paul Burrows said: “Our school is the only Royal school in the area and we wanted to do something really special to mark the Coronation and Deaf Awareness Week.
“We have established very good links with Derby Cathedral and it was a genuine joy to work with the choir on this performance.
“The result is incredibly moving and I think you can see on the children’s faces just how proud they were to be able to record this tribute to the new King.
“We hope everyone enjoys this performance as much as the choir did performing it.
“Who knows, maybe the King himself will visit our school one day in the future?”
The performance also marked the start of National Deaf Awareness Week.
The school had previously marked the death of Queen Elizabeth II by signing the national anthem as a tribute to her.
Mr Burrows added: “Derby is well known as the city of planes, trains and automobiles, as it should be, of course.
“But it is also the home of our wonderful school which has helped create the largest deaf community outside of London – a fact which should be celebrated too.
“It is the only school for deaf children which has a royal status, which was granted by Queen Victoria during her Diamond Jubilee celebrations.”
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