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Wife Cheating On Husband Who Became Disabled

July 7, 2011

This has really upset me. There is so much more to love than a physical relationship. Comments welcome.

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  1. July 7, 2011 11:49 am

    Unfortunately this is very common among couples where one of the couple is disabled and, from my experience and research carried out for an article I wrote about sex and disabled people, it does tend to be more common for women to cheat on disabled men. That’s not to say that men don’t cheat too of course.

    I personally know of lots of women (a lot who have a partner with MS too) who have either cheated once on their partner or who do it regularly and most of them see nothing wrong with it – they claim they “have needs” that their partner cannot meet and so are “forced” to look elsewhere. While it is true that a physical relationship is important there are other ways of sharing intimacy and physical touch with your partner that can be just as stimulating as intercourse. These people are just looking for an excuse to cheat and justify it by citing their “needs”.

    I wonder how many of them consider the “needs” of their disabled partner?

  2. Alan permalink
    July 8, 2011 12:11 pm

    I can’t believe what I was reading what a shallow bi**h!

    I am a man who was severely disabled some 20 years ago and now require major care – worse so for myself I was a nurse and have gone from full time carer to full time cared for including wheelchair and my condition continues to deteriorate – my wife however has been a real rock and I have asked her to read this when she has the time and respond herself.

    As many comments on the paper included, my question is what happens to the compensation and will she wait until that is settled to divorce – Ah there is the rub!!

  3. March 4, 2012 7:11 am

    Women who are married to men who are physically disabled are easy targets for handsome, fit, able-bodied wife stealers, especially if they are rapists and kidnappers, because a physically disabled husband, not unless he is blind or deaf, cannot protect his able bodied wife that much and it’s easier for her to cheat. It’s no wonder women cheat more than men do because there’s more men in this world than there are women and women can easily be tempted. I know a female friend of my mom’s who cheated on her husband who was physically handicapped and had a heart problem with some normal bodied man who steals other men’s wives or girlfriends and he ended up divorcing her and getting custody over his children. It is common for women to cheat if the man is helpless and not considered masculine enough.

    • Anon permalink
      March 4, 2012 7:24 am

      Same thing if the husband also has a mental disability like Asperger’s or Autism, for example. The potential wife stealer and possibly sexual predator will think she’s an easy target.

  4. October 17, 2014 7:49 pm

    I think someone that would do this is making an immoral and unethical decision. Once the wife or husband cheats on their spouse for any reason those sacred words and that trusting bond has gone to filth and can never and will never be pure again. It would be even worse and more disgusting if that spouse is disabled and can no longer perform sexually. That is sick and very … wow, I don’t even have words to describe what to call a cheating spouse like that.

  5. Eddie permalink
    May 10, 2015 7:17 pm

    I am disabled and know all too well about things like this. Don’t choose a person who is a slave to their urges. They can only serve one master so to speak. They will always bow down to the one they serve.

    There are dogs and there are humans. Do I really need to elaborate?

    ALL disabled men should look up cuckoldry To learn the red flags.
    Secondly, never let them drive a wedge between you and your friends/family.
    Thirdly, never let them convince you to move to a place you cannot travel from or that deprives you of mobility.

    This is what happened to me. The definition of “Love”, is a plastic thing when it comes to the disabled and how people who are not disabled interpret it. Choose your spouse wisely. I was reduced to a butler, under duress in my own home while she had fun on my dime and used my resources. She ditched me out here regularly and would threaten to leave me out here at the slightest protest. Being legally blind with albinism has given me many life lessons about, “The Human Club”. Love and fidelity was the biggest Lesson I now comprehend. Your mileage may vary.

    If you doubt my story, there is little I can do to convince you so move on. In the grand scheme of things, I am one man. one man. Only you can carry you and in the end you answer to yourself.

    That is ALL I have to say and all I will say.

  6. steve permalink
    March 22, 2019 1:38 am

    im disabled and my wife moans every night saying she has needs and is going to go elsewhere, I say nothing, what can I say? she gets drunk every night and is very derogotive towards me, I cant walk and now have thought about divorcing her and moving out (its her house, which she keeps reminding me of), im just scared ill just be homeless, not sure where to get advice or help. its hell living here like this.

  7. March 22, 2019 5:05 am

    Maybe Record how she behaves?
    Then, if it gets too bad maybe call council social services or police… and record how they behave.

    Checkout –

    Serious Crime Act 2015
    Controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship
    http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2015/9/section/76/enacted

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